We are so behind.
But there is one grammatical mistake that I particularly enjoy encountering. It has become almost fun for me to come across people who take the phrase “a lot” and condense it down into one word, because when someone says “alot,” this is what I imagine.
Recently I’ve been seeing things posted on my friends’ time lines on Facebook and other social network sites regarding their struggles or even just a hard situation they faced that day. It starts with someone saying what they’re going through and how tough it has been or what happened to them today and how that just piles on top of the already tough time they’re having and then I see a comment from a family member or close friend of this individual stating a derivative of this; “God gives his strongest soldiers the toughtest battles.”
Take a second to read that again.
As if in some effort to tell this individual they are a strong person and that they can handle tough situations, that’s why God has chosen to deliver them with a tough blow.
Let me break this down a little bit. There’s a lot that is wrong with this in my opinion.
First of all, as a friend and a loved one of this individual how is it at all seemingly okay for God to keep putting your loved one through this type of struggle? It’s like you’re offering up a congratulatory high-five to your friend for having a shitty time. “Congratulations, man! God thinks you are strong enough to have your Mom die and your car break down and get evicted from your house! Awesome! I wish God thought that highly of me.”
That brings me to my next point. Why is that God is putting you through this hard time. Why is this almighty, merciful being putting more on your plate for you to chew? It truly baffles me at the way that some people will defend God. There are so many things wrong with this idea that God makes bad things happen to people because they’re strong and they can handle it that I can’t even begin to touch the reality of the issue in this writing. I will share some thoughts, though.
"Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
I’m not entirely sure how God is with a person who is struggling and how they are strengthened and uplifted by adding more and more terrible things to the said plate of life. But, I guess the contradictions in today’s beliefs and the bible readings are endless, so I won’t get in to that. Moving on…
"The Lord is a jealous and avenging God; the Lord is avenging and wrathful; the Lord takes vengeance on his adversaries and keeps wrath for his enemies. The Lord is slow to anger and great in power, and the Lord will by no means clear the guilty. His way is in whirlwind and storm, and the clouds are the dust of his feet. He rebukes the sea and makes it dry; he dries up all the rivers; Bashan and Carmel wither; the bloom of Lebanon withers. The mountains quake before him; the hills melt; the earth heaves before him, the world and all who dwell in it. Who can stand before his indignation? Who can endure the heat of his anger? His wrath is poured out like fire, and the rocks are broken into pieces by him.” Nahum 1:2-6 (I think this means we’re all fucked)
"If anyone does not abide in me he is thrown away like a branch and withers; and the branches are gathered, thrown into the fire, and burned" John 15:6
Okay, so we know God’s wrath is something to fear… but what about his “love”? How can all these things be true about God? He’s forgiving but vengeful. He is understanding but wrathful. He is holy but jealous. Okay, I’m getting in to the contradictions again. I will stop.
From the bible verses above you see that God isn’t necessarily this loving being and obvioulsy not very uplifting if he is throwing you in to the fire and burning you after you wither. This isn’t even if you don’t follow his word. According to these people’s logic this is because you’re strong and God knows you can handle it. According to these people’s logic, God is giving you no more than you can handle.
I will leave with this, if God is giving his strongest soldiers the toughest battles, why is the rate of suicide rising? Why are there people who are homeless, hungry and suffering? Is this really what is happening?
So, please, I’m begging you. Before you high-five your friend for having the high views of God please think about what you are actually saying to your struggling friend or loved one. Instead of congratulating them for going through this tough time, offer them some help, love or time. That’s more meaningful than your condescending congratulations.
Me at every social gathering.